An enhancing victory

I got a call from someone I apparently met at a networking event, asking if I’d be interested in an exchange of services. He said he was a Harvard Journalist on call, an accomplished writer and self-published author…would I agree to meet with him?

He offered: in exchange for his writing in my blog, I would agree to provide a link back to his website. Didn’t sound so terrible. The prospect peeked my curiosity so I agreed to meet with this person and get the details.

In my mind, I thought this meeting could be great for me because I have been struggling with writing my latest book and it would be a good idea to make friends with someone so accomplished.

What crossed my mind was, if this person is so successful, why is he contacting me? I am small potatoes and could hardly offer him a good acknowledgement.

When he approached me, I was immediately struck by his unkemptness; he needed a hair-cut and clean cloths. The shirt he wore looked like it hadn’t been washed for a long time with its shirt collar curled at the fold. It looked very dirty to me. Was he as well?

Immediately, I was taken aback, thinking that this person was successful?

I believe success comes from within, not something determined by what others think success is for another. But, when one has reached a point of success in their mind, usually it follows that a good appearance would reflect how one thinks of himself. At least, that has been my experience, one always wants to make a good impression.

The next thing I noticed about him was his insincerity. He asked me a question and, without listening to my reply, he bound right into what he was going to do for me, that he would make me successful, for a price of course. WOW, all this from someone I’ve just met who knows nothing about me or my accomplishments nor did he think that I may consider myself successful.

When I asked why he thought I was not successful, he pointed to a comment I made about not having sold the number of books that I would like to have sold. His assumption was, I am not successful. His assumptions of me didn’t stop there, however.

I felt he was being very unprofessional in his dialog, not ever asking me what I thought of his ideas.

He ranted on about how successful he was, that he has helped so many others and, how I needed his services to make me successful. He finally got around to how he could help me with my new book. He didn’t ask about specifics about the book, only that he will make me very successful.

While flipping through the pages of my three books that I brought along to discuss with him, he tells me there is no content in these books, they won’t sell. He may be right but, I thought it would be best to at least read through the books first, before making any comment about them.

I am beginning to feel a con coming.

He would make me successful he said, by writing my book collaboratively with me and in conjunction with his marketing. WOW, I was to be so impressed with this offer that I was to jump at the opportunity to pay him ten-thousand dollars to help me!

All the time this person talked, not once did he make eye contact with me. As he talked, I noticed he not just glanced his gaze past me rather, he looked past me completely.

My experience tells me that if someone will not look you in the eye as they are speaking to you, do not trust them.

Trusting my instincts; I do not trust this person! How could I even think to pay this person ten-thousand dollars to help me write my new book? Was this the con or, was there more to come?

Thinking I am about to get ripped-off, I chose to end this conversation telling him that I didn’t trust someone who made such accusations or assertions of one’s success and, without taking the time to know more about that other person or his limitations and aspirations.

I left the conversation convinced I had just witnessed a potential con upon myself!

Always trust your instincts!

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Whether you are a business owner, a representative of a business or, a worker in a corporate venue, chances are you think you have competition.

You’re likely to think I’m crazy when I tell you that the competition you think you have is between your ears. That’s right! The competition you think you have is just that, a thought, an idea planted there by someone or something, yourself for that matter; a process or a duplication from what other’s may have said and, to conform, you agree.

I am here to tell you that you absolutely have no competition in whatever it is that you do. As a business owner, corporate colleague or, a representative of a business, you have no competition!

Or, as a US Olympic athlete:

Did Matthew Centrowitz have competition in the Men’s 1500?

Did Michael Phelps have competition in the water?

Did Simone Biles have competition in gymnastics?

As you ponder: how can that be, no competition? You go on to say, there are so many competitors in my field, that it’s impossible not to have competition.


Well, the answer lies within you! The answer to competition lies within your belief system.

You think it quite normal to have competition! But, if I tell you it’s normal NOT to have competition, what would you say to me? Be nice!

You have been raised to believe competition rules the world.

It’s because of competition that our economy thrives; isn’t that what you believe? Isn’t that what you’ve been told? Of course it is. I believed that for quite some time as well, until that day!

It was that day that I faced a menace, a danger that I needed to overcome in order to survive. I felt as if I had no choice but to survive but how, in the face of all this competition?

I found the answer. The answer is within me.

It is that answer I am going to share with you.

But first, let me tell you a short story.

I had been fired from fourteen jobs in less than twelve years. Yes, fourteen jobs!

I was going through a divorce, not much money in my pocket and a much deflated ego. I had just been told my present job was being terminated because the distributor of major appliances I was working for was going out-of-business.

And, the day before this happened, I bought a new car, with car payments.

WOW! What do I do now?

I had always wanted to be in business for myself—actually, I was in business for myself when I was a shoe-shine boy about twelve years of age. But, this was different. This was real! But, how do I just go into business?

I have a degree in business and a major in management with a minor in economics. Is that enough to go into business as an adult? What did I know about business? At age twelve, it didn’t matter—I had moxie!

As an adult, was moxie enough to go into business? I didn’t know but, I do have courage and courage is what I needed!

With very little money I did the easiest thing there was for me to do and that was buy and sell costume jewelry to retail stores. I continued to buy and sell until I got very good at it—buy low and sell as high as I could.

This went on for a few years until I reached the doors of the big time. When I had to go head-to-head with the big boys I realized there was no way for me to compete with them.

I reached the summit of my career only to be confronted with a decision that would change my career and my philosophy regarding competition, forever.

Courage was no longer enough! I needed to do something, and quickly! There was no way for me to retreat! I had a taste of entrepreneurship and I loved that taste! I wasn’t going back!

What to do? How could I stay in business after coming this far and meeting the big boys? Failure appeared certain but, I couldn’t allow that to happen.

And, it did not happen!

I continued to grow and operate my business until I sold my business after twenty-seven years and never had a competitor. I had over seven-hundred customers when I sold my business. Yes, my customers bought from the big boys too.

What I sold is what I will share with you, now.

I realized there was no way I could possibly compete with these big boys especially, on their terms. I could not compete with these million-dollar companies because I had no money to compete with them.

I operated my business with Vendor Capitalization.

It took a little thinking for me to realize that first, I was not one of them, the big boys.

I was a little business in a big world but, there was room for me if I didn’t try to be competitive but, just be me! I realized that what I had to offer the big boys didn’t have and, that was me!

No, this is not about inflated ego! This is about reality! I could only do what I could do and, that was not try and compete with the big boys.

I studied the big boys and learned from them. I decided to offer our customers something the big boys didn’t have but, the customers wanted.

My realization was that I needed to be me and provide to my customers what they wanted in the way that I could provide.

That concept, while so simple, became so big. It worked extremely well, so much so, that my philosophy about competition has evolved to what I am sharing with you, now.

Stop trying to compete! Be yourself!

Know who you are, understand your uniqueness, offer what you are capable of offering. Be at the top of your game. There is no other in this world like you. There may be others similar as you but, they are not you nor do they have your uniqueness!

No one can offer this universe what you have to share with mankind!

Simply and confidently, tell the world how you will benefit mankind and help them prosper from your creation! Know yourself-your uniqueness-that will benefit mankind in a way no other can!

Simply present your uniqueness as a benefit for mankind to prosper.


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Why is sharing knowledge relevant and important?

Thinking about industrial or commercial perpetuity or the business of sustaining education; will they survive without transferred knowledge from parting workers to seemingly younger workers or, students whose minds have yet to develop?

Parting workers, usually elder workers, have spent likely decades in studying and analyzing concepts and procedures to facilitate production or movement within an organization that will be lost once they part with the company they presently serve.

Some have referred to this as Brain Drain, the absence of knowledge in the workforce once this exiting process is complete.

Often the parting worker is left with the unproductive activity of his knowledge, left to wither as if on a dying vine.

Elder workers are seen by the younger workforce as incapable of or lack the energy or knowledge, to be relevant today.

The irrelevance of the knowledge taken from the workplace, lies within the ignorance and minds of the younger worker.

Perhaps through ignorance, disconnection, ego or, some other adjective that describes the arrogance of disallowing shared knowledge. Intimidation comes to mind but, do younger workers lack the knowledge to understand themselves?

I understand the “Can Do” attitude that lies within the ego of the younger worker but, I also understand the lack of understanding in what the younger worker does not know.

It seems so simple from afar, to look back and see this all acting out in our understanding of the matter.

Unfair to the elderly, you say? Unfair to the consumer, you say? Unfair to the economy, you say?

I say, Unfair to Mankind!
So much has transpired in creating the environment in which we live today.

Hasn’t it been the result of the older workers’ contribution to mankind that has created this opportunity for us today?

That opportunity is whatever you wish it to be!

That is the contribution of the retiring worker. The opportunity that we glean today from the activities of others that have gone before us, was created by a mind that will no longer be available to us in perpetuity–lost forever.

Think about Albert Einstein and the many contributions to mankind he left behind for us to traverse to this point in time. Wouldn’t we be much more educated if his mind was still available to us? Of course!

And, in a way, his mind is still with us in that we have recordings of his accomplishments and contributions to mankind.

But, do we have the use of his mind today?

May we get a response from this learned mind for a present day equation needing to be solved? Of course not.

With this short essay about knowledge lost, I think we can see the value to mankind in retaining the minds of departing workers in that they will share their knowledge with us to facilitate the next great happening for mankind?

Capturing the minds of departing workers will create an environment and library of knowledge for mankind that will facilitate growth and development into perpetuity.

A departing mind, withering on a decaying vine, is lost knowledge, forever gone, never again to assist mankind in developing further.

Casting aside the minds that have created your environment, is counter-productive to mankind’s perpetuity.

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  • Nurture me, your gift from God, to become a powerful liberator of mankind.
  • Guide me not by your desires or failures rather, look into me and see who I am; look into me and hear my thoughts, see my ideals.
  • Be motivated by what you have created–an independent, intelligent, autonomous leader of mankind.
  • Encourage me to reach the level of importance in life that I wish to reach and not be swayed by your passions or desires but, by mine.
  • Guide me patiently to become an affable person where I may favor mankind and grow to benefit others.
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Does it not seem logical that before we join with another, as we flow towards our destiny, we must first learn to understand and trust ourselves?

But first, preparation is needed to make clear our murky waters.

We must crystallize our vision so we will clearly see the obstacles in our way towards our destiny. We must persuasively navigate around those obstacles with confidence and clarity of mind and spirit to reach our objective our, destiny.

We must learn to trust ourselves with the confidence our creator has given us to navigate towards our destiny.

We will accomplish our objective by liberating ourselves from false realities and the restrictions placed before us by past injustices.

We must examine those injustices and false understandings bringing forward those ideas of so long ago and apply them to today’s standards and thought and today’s realities.

In doing so, we will see clearly the meaning of those ideas as they apply to our objective, today.

Is it not about the choices we make?

The choices that we are making for ourselves today may be tempered by old and misguided ideas of a time long ago; the reality of which has no meaning today.

(Do we choose to use candles to light our way today or do we choose to use electricity to light a bulb that will give us light to guide us on our path?)

Our choices today must be clear and precise so that we will navigate towards our destiny with purpose and confidence while influencing mankind.

Liberating ourselves from old ideas and thoughts is necessary to make the optimal choice for ourselves today.

{I feel a responsibility towards mankind to have the confidence and persuasiveness in me to make the optimal choice for myself as I flow towards my destiny.}

Like a mighty river; humans have an origin and a destiny.

As the river flows, unencumbered towards its destiny, so shall man acquire the seemingly simple teachings of the river in combating obstacles before it.

Flowing towards its destiny, to the observer, the mighty river will teach mankind the wisdom of navigating obstacles with its destiny as the objective.

Have we not traveled towards our destiny without having been visited by conflicting currents and outside interferences and attempted contamination of our current as we flow towards our destiny?

Has our navigation towards our destiny not been interrupted by obstacles placed before us by well-meaning others? Have we yet to navigate around those obstacles placed before us?

How clear is your life and destiny to others when you choose to allow interference in your current flow towards your destiny by old and misguided false ideas?

Choose clarity and preciseness to navigate towards your destiny, only then can you allow another to share your current flow.

Be not controlled nor swayed by the dreams of others’; theirs is not yours!

Your victory is your destiny!



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Just how do we define ourselves?

  1. By the standards of others?
  2. By your own irrational tributes to yourself?
  3. By your accomplishments in life?
  4. By the praise you receive from others?
  5. By the praise you bestow upon yourself?

It is my experience that if you attempt to define yourself by the standards of others you will fail to reach a conclusion because “they “are not you! Others can only see things through their own eyes, not yours!

If you falsely praise yourself, you will not see your shortcomings and the need to repair them for your benefit and, the benefit of mankind.

If you attempt to count your successes as a definition of you, are you giving your powers and conclusion of self to someone or something other yourself.

If you accept the praise from others as defining who you are, are you running the risk of being as they define you to be and, not how you see yourself as being?

  • Is the praise you bestow on yourself real and not imaginary?
  • Can one define oneself by the deeds they perform for others?
  • The helping hand in the time of need?
  • Praise given selflessly?
  • Or, by the goodness in oneself, mentored by tireless mentors because they cared about you your character?

Are you prepared to move it forward?



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What direction do you want to grow your business?

Assuming of course that you want to grow your business, what position do you want your business to be in, in the big scheme of things?

What position do you want your company to occupy? Where do you want to grow your business?
Some know, some don’t!
Those who know may not know HOW to get to where they would like to be.
Some try, most fail! Why?
A lack of knowing may be it. A lack of drive may be another. The lack of a clear vision is most likely the culprit keeping your business from occupying the prominent place of choice.
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