When one feels entitled

One is not deserving!

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What Can You Learn From Me?

What is my contribution to mankind?

Recently, I attended a networking event when during a conversation revolving around motivational speaking I was asked by one of the participants in this discussion, what someone could learn from me.

I have never thought about what someone could learn from me, never!

Although I say that I am in the teaching mode of my life, I have not given any thought to what someone could LEARN from me.

I found it difficult to spontaneously answer that question.

Now, after digesting the question I have painfully come up with what I think to be a very detailed (although incomplete) answer.

You see, it is uncomfortable for me to tell others about myself or my accomplishments for fear of sounding like a bragger.

However, I could not possibly answer that question unless I allow one to discover my past accomplishments in order for them to judge whether or not there is something for them to learn from.

And, for that to happen, I must profess my experiences in such a way as to not sound like a bragger but rather factual in my accomplishments and, my discoveries as well.

While pondering this obvious difficult question for me to answer I can only think to start by looking way back in my life experiences.

Knowing how I would answer this question would be extremely lengthy therefore; I shall concentrate my answer to the very topic that prompted this question in the first place and leave the very lengthy answer for another discussion, should someone prompt the question.

We were discussing my book “Who Sleeps In Your Skin?” at the time.

My book is a motivational book intended for the reader to reach a state of mind where they would allow themselves to be self-actualized, or at least begin the journey to be so.

It is about moving forward in life and dealing with what is keeping one from doing so.

Simply, the answer to the question “What can someone learn from me?” is to
discover themselves and learn to be self-actualized.

One may learn from me:

• Self awareness
o Knowing who you are not what others want you to be
o Like and dislike yourself-having an objective opinion of yourself
o Realizing that you are not perfect but, so what?
o Set goals for yourself and knock down the barriers in your way to reaching those accomplishments
o Realizing that you can only be the best that you can be!
o Forget about negative competition that prevents you from successes
o Knowing that you have the answers within to reach all that you want to reach-to be all that you want to be!

• The Survivor Power Tool Kit and its Eleven Motivational Power Tools.

How to use these tools to create a unique Survivor Power Tool kit for Success that is yours only to use.

The Eleven Motivational Power Tools:

o Choice
o Visualization
o Affirmations
o Reinforcement
o Change
o Self-trust
o Goal Setting
o Commitment
o Self-Discipline
o Discovery
o Courage

• Discover what is holding you back from accomplishing the things in life that you want; and, how to deal with them.

• One will learn to flow like a Mighty River flows, fearlessly to its destiny-something for humans to digest and imitate.

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Helping those in need will result in a humbling experience for you!

I want to take a moment and thank AARP and the Salvation Army for the opportunity for me to recently serve those in need through the Salvation Army office in Tarpon Springs, Florida.

Although this was a temporary assignment with the Salvation Army while an employee had and recovered from an operation, I must profess that this assignment to assist those in need was the most humbling and rewarding thing I have ever experienced in my life!

Having experienced an unfortunate decline in wealth myself, I truly understand how some people may become financially dependent on strangers for financial support or needing food support even for a short time.

It has been a humbling experience and personally rewarding for me to be a small part of this chain of assistance for those in need.

Recognizing that those in need would prefer not to be IN NEED, I witnessed most people to be humble and appreciative of the assistance they could get from the Salvation Army and other area supportive groups. I also witnessed that most people did not demand assistance but rather humbly accepted what assistance they could receive. I also witnessed that most if not all people accepted responsibility for their current situation and blamed no one for it.

I assisted homeless people, those in transition, local residents’ temporarily needing financial assistance and, those in a job or other financial transitional period of their lives.

This humbling experience has been an eye-opener for me and has left me feeling that I have had the experience of a life time to be able to know and assist those in need!

This has been the most humbling and rewarding experience that I have ever had!

It will last me a life time!

I urge all of you to find an organization serving those in need and volunteer a little of your time and experience something personal and humbling in value!

Then, share your experience with the world and ask others to share and experience what you have discovered!

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Don’t let life’s challenges drag you down!

Stay true to yourself!

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Let us take a moment to thank and show appreciation to all veterans!

I whole heartedly salute and respect all veterans for their courage, pride, bravery and, unselfishness that has allowed all Americans and free people of the world to live the joyful and prosperous lives that each of us have and, to live our lives the way we want in FREEDOM!

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I want to work with you in your business.


I can help you with organizing the work flow in your business, I can help you with reducing your costs associated with running your business, I can assist when you are busy, I can motivate your subordinates so that they will increase their out-put so that you can earn more money and pass it on to your family.

 I can help you with increasing your sales and profits.

  • I can help you with your business and marketing plans.
  • I can help you to become an international player if that is what you want to do.
  • I can assist you in the international arena for purchasing, outsourcing or sales.
  • I can educate and train your executives in people skills and performance issues
  • I can train your sales team to increase their performance and bring in more sales.

 Well, by now you must know that I am not 25 years old.

 But, my question to you is, can you get these needed services from a 25 year old?

 And, I mean no disrespect towards the 25 year old person; she/he has yet to experience these things so how could one possibly help you in your business in this regard?

 So, let me ask you; is age more important to you in the running of your business or is production and performance more important to you?

 Which of the two do you think would be more reliable, more consistent and less distracted from your goals?

 Yes, I am over fifty, in excellent physical shape, work out at the gym 4-5 times a week and walk 3 miles in 50 minutes most mornings! I am very active in life and other challenging pursuits.

 I challenge you to take three twenty-five years old with MBA’s or even PhD’s and see if they collectively will give you the performance I mentioned above!

 Try me out for ten work days, if my performance does not show improvement to your cause, I will have worked for you at no expense!

 I guess one could say that I will increase your business performance for you with a 100% money back guarantee! Not too bad is it? Willing to take the chance? What do you have to loose, or gain?

 Nicholas R. De Stefano


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As we travel towards our destiny age and wisdom follow not far behind!

Don’t Loose Who You Are! You will never find yourself again!

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